Its typical to have one-itis with a girl back in the day when you were a newb and you had that scarcity mentality. But damn, I still get one-itis with like every girl I meet (okay, so not every girl, but the ones I like, which is quite frequent)....
A lot of videos tell you about what works and what doesn’t from a conceptual point of view, however, its nice to see a video where they do head to head simulations on how to be alpha and what works and what doesn’t.
I think most people are aware of the concepts shown in this video but actually seeing it done is pretty cool.
The two biggest things that resonated with me are:
1. Size matters.
2. Fake it till you make it.
Sheer size alone will prevent most guys from coming to AMOG you. Yes you can make up for it with body language and strong lock-in body positioning with the girl, however you have to put more effort in making your sets more solid and guys will be judging you from a distance and they won’t see how you will react till after the fact. I can tell from personal experience, its very rare for guys to come into my set even if I am doing poorly. Basically just work out, and get big. The video demonstrates the two scenarios between the big guy and the small guy pretty well.
The second one is fake it till you make it. There are a lot of misconceptions about the term congruence. Yes be congruent to yourself and your true path, if its a GOOD thing. However, if you have bad habits and you know it will negatively affect your set, DO not attempt to be congruent with your bad behaviors. Instead, FAKE it till you MAKE it. If the set is high energy and you’re tired and you don’t feel like approaching, do not be congruent with your low energy behavior. Fake the energy level to match the set or you will get blown out. Ever open a set that is dancing and jumping up and down and you open with a quiet weak opener? Boom, instant ignore and blow out.
If you are pulling a girl out of the venue and you are unsure of yourself. Do you be congruent and act like you are unsure because that’s how you feel on the inside? Fuck no! Fake it till you make it. Pretend like you know what you’re doing and where you’re going. Walk like you’re sure of yourself while you’re scrambling on your Android Yelping the next best pull location lol. I noticed its okay to ask for directions as long as you’re not stopping and hesitating. For example, if I am in Vegas and I am lost while pulling, always ask the guys in suits and earphones for directions rather than walking around lost. After acquiring directions, give them a high five or a fist pump and make it seem like you know the guy. Social proof while acquiring logistics. Double win!
Lastly, displaying alpha body language like holding your hands in the air and making a scream in the beginning of the night will help you punch through those initial approach anxiety barriers.
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