If you read any PUA forum, WorldStarHipHop, Bodybuilding.com forum, Facebook groups, or even the comments in my page, you most likely have come across this video. This video became viral a few days ago reaching over a million views. If you skim over the video without really doing background research, it appears at the beginning of the video… one girl is with an Asian guy and another girl (friends of the first girl) is with a White guy. Then a few minutes in, the second White guy steals the girl from the Asian guy. In the end, both Asian girls get pulled by the two White guys. The title of the video is called “Guy Steals Girl From Chinese Guy”.
As you can see, this video stirs up a shit storm, shows up on tons of Asian forums, magazines, newspapers and other media sites. With this many views, internet detectives quickly find the identity of everyone in the video, both guys and girls. The White guys get a lot of threats and hate mail, the girls are humiliated.
Some of the comments revolved around the topics of:
Filming without permission, invasion of privacy
Race, objectifying and preying on Asian women
Projecting Asian guys to be weak
Picking up Asian girls as White guy as being easy
Obviously, a lot of this revolves around race. However, lets discuss some of these issues and lessons learned.
I actually know the guy in the video because I know every PUA on the planet and I would consider him a friend. His name is David, a pretty hard follower of RSD. He found my YouTube channel a while back, contacted me. We did some day game together. He also quit his day job around the time when I was planning on doing a road trip. We ended up doing a 30 day road trip across countries hitting up clubs in Scottsdale, Dallas, Austin, Miami, New York, and Chicago.
We have some similarities but also a lot of differences in terms of pickup and life. He was very passionate about pickup theory, concepts, mindset, and would ramble on for hours about RSD Tyler’s videos in the car to the point where my head explodes! Hes one of those guys that would talk about pickup all the time and pretty much nothing else. I on the other hand can’t handle all the PUA talk (ironic considering I teach pickup). Sometimes I just want to hear a funny story, or find something interesting about a city, eat delicious food, or expand my travel experiences.
We also preferred different girls. He likes strictly FOB Asian girls while I liked Latinas, Whites, and Asians. I liked my girls to be assertive, witty, and equality talkative while he preferred his girl to be more passive and compliant.
We also preferred different venues. While I am proficient in day game, I still prefer night game because its more fun to me. Up until Asia, David pretty much exclusively did day game. Day game is inherently different than night game. Dealing with a hot turbo blonde in a Vegas club is VERY different than opening a passive compliant Asian girl on the street.
David is a good guy. He is one of those people who loves to seek other like minded people, collaborate, and share experiences. That’s how he found me and we ended up hanging out. However, with a lot of pick up guys, we all started in a weird place in life, not necessarily perfect and we all have our idiosyncrasies. For example, we were at a restaurant and David got upset at a waitress for being too friendly. He mentioned the waitress was being fake for the purpose getting a higher tip and did not feel like tipping her. I explained that this was good customer service and that many waitresses get low base pay and depend on tips to survive. I also explained that not tipping in front of girls on a date can be a huge turn-off. I asked him if it was any different or worse to go after girls with boyfriends. His logic was, “well think of the girl working at a shitty job, and we are a better job, and if the girl chooses us, shes getting an upgraded job”. We also have our differences on our what we focus. While I agree that game is important, I also focus on fitness, fashion, developing lifestyle, adhering to most social norms. I believe that being an attractive man means doing what an attractive man should do… even if it doesn’t directly affect game. I have told him countless times to not wear white socks but he never listens. In fact, he sends faggotry pics like this to piss me off. It’s almost like he’s saying “Fuck the system. I can wear shit fashion and still pull girls”.
I am not disagreeing that you can’t pull with white socks, what I am saying is that bad fashion is bad fashion and just don’t do it because its not attractive and furthermore, you WILL turn off some girls that DO care. The ones that do care are usually the ones with fashion sense and are likely to be hotter as well. If it lowers your probability, why do it? The sock is just an example, but things like this adds up. Bad fashion, lose a percentage of girls. Not tipping, lose a percentage of girls. Blatantly open sets with a GoPro on your head, lose a percentage of girls. Not having an ideal life style, lose a percentage of girls.
Filming Girls I will tell from my experience, the world is small. Even with 6000 some subscribers, I get called out almost every day in Vegas clubs by guys. Also, I had three girls from Vancouver find out that that I took videos of them and one of the videos was even blurred! How the fuck… its 1400 miles from Vegas to Vancouver. If you heard the term six degrees of separation between everyone on the planet, well with even a few thousand views… you’re essentially making that gap very small. In addition, the audience is going to be PUA guys who approach thousands of girls so the likelihood of them recognizing any particular girl is VERY high. My channel is only in the thousands, can you imagine how quickly things spread when the view count reaches MILLIONS? At that high of a viewcount, it is statistically impossible for an unblurred video of a girl to not find out.
Chasing validation is something many PUAs never get over. A lot of guys come from a background where we never got any girls so it feels good to get recognition when we finally reach a skill level where we are getting results. When I first started out, consistently uploading audio/video on YouTube gave me motivation to keep going and to see how I progressed. When you’re new and you’re low on motivation, it is acceptable to post your results. During the early phases, rejections suck and you need as much positive emotions as possible. Once you get to a certain skill level however, you need to stop the brag posts. What do I mean by brag posts? Posts that don’t provide any value or insight other than showing everyone you got a number/ date/ lay.
Everyone roots for the underdog; its the struggle, the challenge, the breaking of a plateau or a sticking point. Nobody gives a shit when you already made it. Are you impressed when Lebron James makes another dunk? Are you impressed when Bill Gates made another billion or when Charlie Sheen adds another lay count to his current lay count of 5000+? The answer is no.
Issues with Race Race issues will always come up. Its inevitable whenever minorities are present. As a fan of standup comedy, I hear racial jokes almost every night when I go to a comedy club. Its funny because people identify with them and its usually the comedian talking about his/her own race. I make light hearted racial jokes all the time and half of them are about Asian people. However, if I make a joke about a Black person, all my Black audience will be offended; if I make a joke about a Hispanic person, my Hispanic audience will be offended… even though I make fun of everyone equally and I have friends of every race.
The impact is even stronger when it involves a dominant race and a minority race. This is exactly what happened here. Asia has had a long bitter history with Europeans. I’m not going to summarize the history of Asia however a notable example would be Britain finding a scheme to steal China’s riches by getting everyone addicted to opium and trading ships worth of drugs for gold and silver and eventually destroying the imperial gardens. The opium war forced China to give up Hong Kong as a part of a cease fire agreement. As you can see, there is a lot of bitter resentment in history with White people and therefore a White guy AMOGGING a random Asian will cause drama even if there were no racial motives. Just make a mental note to be careful when making infield pickup videos while in non first world countries.
Is It Easier To Pimp In Asia Being White? No fucking shit its easier. The numbers don’t lie. I have plenty of White friends who been to Asia, they all tell me the same thing. Guys who get new lays every 2 weeks often get lays every 2 days in Asia. Even guys who take training from me find much easier success in Asia. I had a Hispanic student find a girlfriend in Taiwan.
Now, this doesn’t mean ALL Asian girls just want the White cock. Most Asian girls still prefer Asian men. We are genetically programmed to like the type of people we grew up with. I was born in China so I will always like Asian girls but I also lived in Nebraska in elementary school so I also like White girls. I also like Latina girls because… well who the fuck doesn’t. Being White in Asia makes you stand out. Because the dialogues are in English, the guy is most likely going to lead the conversation. Guys from over seas are going to be more interesting and are going to have more stories to tell. Look at David. Because he wears a GoPro like a senior citizen wears Depend diapers, he’s got a bazillion cool pictures on his phone and each one is a story. Being White is polarizing. Its kind of like being really buff or looking like a rock singer. While most girls may not like you, the ones that do are really going to like you. Combining the sheer number of sets on the streets of Asia with running numbers game and cavemanning or beastmoding, its easy to pull girls.
Lessons learned? If you’re a newbie, go ahead and post your results. If you are already getting good results, you should stop (unless there is value added). For things that are controversial, blur out the face. Just don’t do AMOG videos in general unless the other guy is being a tool. Everyone always roots for the underdog. If you’re non Asian and you want to get some reference experience, going to Asia is not a bad idea. Just don’t put it on YouTube and piss people off.
And one last thing, not all Asians are beta. Here are pics of my Asian students with White girls.
Today I went to a day 2 that ended with a lay. Whats interesting was that I didn't talk a lot about myself. I barely mentioned anything about me. Almost everything I said was in the form of questioning or relating.
Its funny when you start out, the first rule any PUA would tell you is to not ask so many damn questions and not to train stack your damn questions. After a few months, your verbals improve, and you sort of go to the other extreme. You become more like a self absorbed asshole who seems to be only into yourself and the girls don't connect with that. This is great for the attraction phase but it almost kills you during comfort/rapport phase...